Resources

Tools to take with you

Six exercises drawn straight from the frameworks I use in paid sessions. Printable PDFs, free, no email required. Do them with a pen and an honest hour.

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Discovering Your Inner Self

When life gets loud it's hard to hear yourself think. This exercise creates a moment of stillness and asks what's already there waiting to be noticed.

What questions should I ask myself to figure out who I really am?

Start with questions that point at your life, not your labels. When do I feel most like myself? What am I putting up with that I shouldn’t be? What would I do if nobody were watching? What am I avoiding? Write the first honest answer, then ask what’s underneath it. Why do I do these things? You hold more of the answer than you think, just be open and listen.

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Finding Your Strengths

You already have them. This exercise helps you see them clearly — including the ones that might surprise you.

How do I figure out what my strengths are?

Look for the things that come naturally to you. What do people keep coming to you for? What do you do and look at the clock and hours have passed? What comes easy to you? Then ask someone you know what they think. You might be surprised what others see in you, but remember it is the urge inside you coming from being true to yourself that will give you real insight.

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Finding Your Interests

Pairs with Finding Your Strengths to paint a fuller picture of who you actually are beneath what life has asked you to be.

How do I figure out what I’m actually interested in?

Watch what you research in your spare time, or always found interesting. What do you keep bringing up in conversation? When interests appear over and over keep a list without judging it, then circle whatever keeps appearing.

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Checking Your Progress

An honest conversation with yourself about where you started, what you've learned, and where you want to go next.

What questions should I ask myself to see if my life is moving in the direction I want it to?

Ask questions that study your past and explore your future. What went well, and why? What opportunity came from something I handled poorly and what do I do now? What’s one thing I don't feel ready for but see myself doing? Write without boundaries, then reread it a week later. Direction reveals itself through patterns.

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Creating Your Motto

One sentence that captures what fulfills you and who it serves. Your anchor when motivation fades.

What makes a good life motto, and how do I find mine?

A good motto is short, true, and reminds us of who we are deep down. To find yours, look at the discovery you have had. Write it with the why in mind. Why is this important to me? Something to carry you and motivate you. Something like, "I create good every day in every situation I face" mean it and live by it knowing it came from within you. If it sounds good but not something you truly believe deep down, walk away and think about it then revisit it later.

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Finding Peace Amid Chaos

For the moments when everything is moving at once. This exercise finds the stillness that was always inside the noise.

How do I find inner peace when life feels chaotic?

Finding peace comes from getting rid of the noise and understanding how you react to it. Identify what’s bothering you, then split it into what you can control and what you can’t. Silence the thoughts, fears and doubt. Look to that inner motto, slow down and know that like the storm it will pass.

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The same honest questions, guided. Two of my apps take this kind of work further than a pen and paper can.

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How to use these

Start with Discovering Your Inner Self. It is the shortest and it sets up the framework, a moment of stillness before the questions get specific.

Then do Finding Your Strengths and Finding Your Interests together, ideally in the same sitting. Separately they give you a list. Together they give you a picture.

Creating Your Motto comes after those three, not before. It only works once you have accessed that true desire from your inner self. Checking Your Progress is the one to keep and return to every few weeks.

Write by hand if you can, and resist the urge to write the impressive answer. The useful answer is usually the one you would not say out loud.

These exercises are the inward half of the IIMM and LEFIS frameworks. If you want someone in the room while you work through them, here is how coaching works. And when you are ready for more than a download, explore the offerings.